That question has the ability to either fling you into a state of panic or despair, or be seen as 'Airy Fairy Crap', and dismissed as quickly as it is asked.
However, the question is an important one, and not one that is meant only for 'super spiritual' types.
Soul Purpose is attached to (and sometimes used in combination with) other Big Life Questions like: 'What is the meaning of (my) life?' 'What is my Life's Purpose?', or another way of asking 'Why am I here?'
From my own life experiences, and my years of working as a therapist and now Intuitive Coach, my opinion is that our Soul Purpose is one of the most powerful 'inner drivers' for every choice we make in our lifetime.
Stepping into our Soul Purpose can be huge and life-changing (“To lead a group of people out of oppression”) or more everyday but no less meaningful (“To teach children how to love and be loved”).
Many feel FEAR around tuning into their Soul Purpose. They fear the loss of ‘life as we know it’, and worry that they will have to be someone new or different - that they will no longer comfortable in their own skin.
For some, the journey to connecting with their Soul Purpose feels frustrating and difficult. The irony, however, is that when we are connected with our Soul Purpose we feel positive contentment and joy.
Finally connecting with our Soul Purpose can certainly have a RADICAL effect on our lives, but the end result is feeling more at home in our own skin than perhaps we ever have before.
It can be really quite simple (promise)!
Take out a pen and a piece of paper. Start writing down the things that you enJOY (you will know you enjoy them, because they leave you with positive FEELINGS - contentment, peace, happiness, JOY).
Write as many examples as you can, ranging from life-altering examples (coaching others to re-ignite their soul) to everyday experiences (sipping tea watching the birds eating from the birdfeeder).
Take some quiet time without distractions to write this list. Really tune in to the experiences that have deep meaning for you - big and small.
Write as long a list as you can possibly muster. There are no ‘wrong’ answers.
Make sure to tune into the FEELINGS that each experience, event or memory brings up for you.
Our Soul Purpose is an emotional blueprint - one that is unique and special to us. When we are in alignment with our purpose, our lives tend to feel more, well... purposeful!
We simply cannot be connected to our purpose without being connected to our feelings.
BONUS: the feelings we have when connected to our purpose are positive, fulfilling and joyful.
On the other hand, when we are living outside the parameters of our Soul Purpose, we are going to feel out of sorts, anxious, depressed, overwhelmed and even angry.
QUICK TIP: Are you living and working in your Soul Purpose? Be honest with yourself about how you feel about your business, career or relationships right now. If you feel content, happy and joyous, you are in alignment - congratulations!
Making the decision to follow your Soul Purpose sometimes means changing direction in our lives, our careers, our education and even our relationships. It can mean shifting our perspective so dramatically that the people we have been close to for our entire lives start to pull away, get confused or even upset. All of that is normal: as with any dramatic shifts, expect the unexpected! This is the reason that many seek help to make the transition as smooth as possible. (This is also a large part of what MY Soul Purpose is: to ease this exact transition with joy and intuition).
While the range of possibilities of what living in our Soul Purpose might look like is limitless, for ease of understanding we can reduce Soul Purpose to three broad categories. (I have learned this from my good friend Johanna Gardner who is an amazing energy worker and artist, and from whom I have learned to tune into my clients Soul Purpose energies in super-cool visual ways).
Refer to the list of experiences you have written or journaled (above), making sure to tune into the feelings that each one evokes. This way you can simply and easily identify which of three broad categories you fit into:
If your list comprises of the joy and peace you feel when you share knowledge, writing, wisdom and facts, then you have a good idea that your Soul Purpose is to teach, lead or mentor in some capacity.
If your list resonates with all things nurturing, caring and helping - you are on the right track if your life and/or career reflects being able to spread love and caring for others.
You may really resonate with opportunities to help others tap into their happiness, humor and the positivity in life - which suggests you will also be happiest helping others or in a position that spreads positivity, JOY and good vibes in some capacity or other.
Imagine you are a barista at Starbucks.
If your Soul Purpose is to ‘LOVE’, imagine really sharing your light with your customers and co-workers. Break out the warm-fuzzies and see how that FEELS for you (it might feel weird or different, but overall GOOD if it is in alignment). You might imagine mixing the ingredients with extra special care, making eye contact, and really listening to your customers.
If on the other hand, you feel your Soul Purpose is Wisdom, imagine yourself sharing your knowledge of the brews, coffee types, other options for your customers. Facts and information will resonate with you and help you FEEL good.
And if your Soul Purpose is JOY then make sure you are sharing your smiles, good vibes and (appropriate) humor.
Feel into what feels GOOD (not forced) - then you know you are on the right track.
If you’re not completely sure which category best fits, then have some fun trying on each type - and see how each FEELS for you…
As a fun aside - watch your barista next time you are at Starbucks - what is your best guess that THEIR Soul Purpose is?
How you FEEL will always tell you if you are on the right path.
Positive feelings = thumbs up. Negative feelings = off course!
And remember - it might feel weird or awkward to try something new… but really try to tap into the core INNER feeling… The one that says “yes, this feels weird but the ‘vibe’ feels GOOD".
Now you’re on your way to being in alignment with YOUR Soul Purpose!
Shine your light brightly - the world needs you being in your purpose. Promise.
P.S. If you are interested in finding out more about YOUR Soul Purpose 1:1, check out my Facebook Biz Page, or contact me directly through the form on this page.
You are also most welcome to join me for psychology, soul and some fun in my free Facebook Group: Psychology + Soul.
P.P.S. In case you were wondering, MY Soul Purpose is Joy (no shocker there :)
Tanya Tinney is a mom of three beautiful girls (including fraternal twins), wife of an amazing entrepreneurial man, nature lover, wrangler of two large dogs and chaser of three bad cats. She is equally good at baking banana bread and whipping up a killer margarita.
Her passion is helping fabulous people get unstuck from their past so they can blast through current challenges and get really stuck into achieving their dreams.
With three University degrees and 14 years experience working as a psychologist, most of the time she knows what she’s talking about. The rest of the time she ‘wings it’ based on her own messy life experiences. Her approach is one of laser focus, empathy and intuition with a healthy dose of humor – along with a kick-in-the-you-know-what when necessary (and it often is!).
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