I'm Tanya Tinney, and my JOY is helping motivated people bust through the limits of their past, dysfunctional relationship patterns, self-sabotage and perfectionism that keeps them living a black-and-white life.
Because JOY is had when we are experience the full color of life's experiences. But I was disconnected from that fact for such a very, very long time...
When I was younger, I felt very much like I had to 'tough it out' and survive lifes challenges. And I learned that being courageous and stubborn was enough to get me through. And together with my sense of humor, these qualities did get me through. But at what cost?
I constantly made terrible decisions when it came to my intimate relationships. My boundaries were poor or non-existent (I didn't know how to say no, and said yes at all the wrong times). I wondered why life wasn't going the way I wanted it to - I was living firmly in a VICTIM mindset.
And embarrassingly - this was all happening at the same time as being a licensed Psychologist - helping others with their very serious and life-limiting mental health issues.
And each new challenge that came my way was simply another thing I had to 'push through'. Life became a one-step-forward-two-steps-back game of survival.
Life was happening to me, rather than from me.
Ultimately, I ended up burnt-out. Beaten down by emotional and physical challenges. I developed an auto-immune disease that kept me so exhausted that sometimes I felt like my body was asleep while my eyes were open.
And I knew there just had to be a better way. For myself. For my kids. For my family. For my career. I needed and wanted to be a healthy role-model!
So I dug deep. I applied all of my extensive knowledge, education, and training in the field of early childhood development and trauma, self-worth, and relationships. And I got professional help with all of that too (it's near impossible to be objective to your own 'stuff'). I became very clear about who I am, what I do, and perhaps most importantly why I do it.
My life's purpose became crystal clear. Which led me to becoming super clear about my goals, and how to achieve them. And most importantly, how to work towards my personal and professional goals while staying grounded and calm, joyful, expressive and creative .
My clients learn to listen to and trust their own intuition, their experience and their values. They regain their life magic by learning to trust their own decisions (sometimes for the first time in their life), set and meet goals in line with their values and passions, and engage in a wholehearted, brave approach to work and life that involves taking RADICAL RESPONSIBILITY.
My clients learn to see their experience through a new lens - one that is not clouded by negative life experiences, other peoples opinions, or their own fears, doubts and frustrations.
Simply put, my clients get their JOY back!
As we work together, I will support and encourage you, challenge your beliefs and use a variety of soft- and tough-love approaches depending on your needs. Because one size does not fit all.
I want for you what you want for you. Because I've been where you are. And I KNOW that if I am worth it, then you are too.
You can do this. Better still, let's do this together!
P.S.: I have three University degrees (B.A., M.A., M.Sc.), all in the field of Psychology. I also was a licensed psychologist in the Province of Alberta, Canada for 13 years. The rest, as they say, is history (and a healthy dose of messy life experiences).